When I was caregiving for my mom, we worked hard to make each day special by thinking through the ebb and flow of the week. We considered our regular daily caregiving routine. We factored in how to pace other “must do” activities (i.e., housecleaning, doctor’s appointments, a haircut, a manicure, a car repair, etc.) in a way that didn’t overwhelm us. (For us, it was about one maintenance type appointment per week.)
In addition, while my mom was still mobile and feeling relatively well, we planned one “special occasion” a week – either a shopping excursion or a restaurant. Or we might order in, or have a few friends over for Happy Hour and hors d’oeuvres.